“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.” - Søren Kierkegaard
As we close on another end to a year, it’s often a time of great reflection and new beginnings for many of us. We ponder about the deeds we’ve done, the sins we’ve committed and the dreams we may or may not have. Whilst all of this seems hopelessly romantic, I think there is an edge to be found if you alter the lens of how you understand your own habitual states of reflection.
Given the propensity to give ourselves criticism - which we are all guilty of – it’s vitally important to take a step back, pause and actually think about the good we have done.
The vast majority of us are so lucky that we live a full life, it’s easy to take for granted simple pleasures and benefits such as family, friends, the roof over our head. So, from that state of gratitude, it behoves us to be kind to ourselves and go through our many positives. A couple of questions that I ask myself every year are:
The 1st question is actually fairly straightforward to answer. If I wasn’t still loving the journey, I wouldn’t be writing this blog right now, I wouldn’t still be finding fulfilment through the entertainment industry and I wouldn’t be putting steps in place to evolve myself, Bridge The Moon and our collaborators.
The 2nd question however, is a tempting one to answer with disdain. It’s a question I am getting better at answering every year as I grow as a person, through my work and my loved ones. It’s easy to look in the mirror and criticise, harder still is knowing your value.
What do you bring to the world? If you can answer this with clarity, with indisputable facts – without muddying them in fake modesty – then you’ll be well on your way to enriching your own perspective, and more confident going into whatever ventures you choose this new year.
Ah. Choices. We would all very much like to be the director of our own lives, and in theory, it makes sense. Our bodies, our minds, our dreams.
Why is it then that with all the free will in the world, the majority of us end up succumbing to somebody else’s devices? There are two points to consider here:
Technology has given us so much power and scope to enhance our lives and choice is a big part of that. Your Netflix subscription has a monumental amount of shows and movies to choose from, yet it’s sometimes much easier to scroll through the titles than it is to make a clear choice.
On reflection, we do this in everyday life. We want the choice but are sometimes unwilling to make a clear decision so we let others do it for us.
Having control over our own actions is a powerful thing and with great power comes great responsibility (says Ben Parker... or Voltaire if you want to be pedantic). But taking on responsibility means you’re taking on accountability, and that can scare us. Why? Because we don’t want to fail. So often we don’t take action on what we actually want, we don’t make the career choice we actually dream of, and we don’t change our lethargic routine because the fear of failure and a lack of belief entice us to believe we’re not enough or somewhat undeserving.
If either of those points resonates with you, then I’m here to tell you it’s all a load of horseshit.
This is the age of the millennials whereby we carve out a more sustainable, fairer and more prosperous future and undoubtedly pick up off the many mistakes the generation before us have made but also to utilise and take advantage of the many benefits that have come about through technology.
You know how people used to get jobs? They’d go door to door, handing out CVs in the hope of being seen for the role. Nowadays we have LinkedIn, we have Facebook, we have online applications – USE THEM. Your dream career is far easier to get to nowadays from an accessibility standpoint, and it would be a crying shame if another dream is lost.
At the end of the day, whatever you believe in (whether it be God, Allah, Brahman, Divine intervention etc) did not put us on this earth to be miserable. That is simply not the case. So, working just to make ends meet, to pay the bills, to live somebody else’s vision of the world – That’s the real science fiction. You’re worth far more than that.
Let 2019 be our brightest yet, and here’s to you World: Let the journey to the life you want to live, begin today.
Written by Alex Chang
CEO & Co-Founder, Bridge The Moon
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